Updated: Feb 16
How to keep memory of your precious baby?
This is something so personal to each Mama and it is something you should consider before your TFMR and is worth chatting to your midwife or care provider about prior to your Surgical or Medical TFMR because they will be able to help you once they know what your wishes are.
TFMR Mamas asked you all on Instagram what keepsakes and mementos you loved to hold memory of your babies. Together with the responses from that and some research we have compiled a list of some of the ways to make this possible.
Depending on what hospital or clinic you attend, you may be given a Memory Box to help you make some memories with your baby while you are there. Usually they are supplied by Charities or Organisations which we have listed in our Charities, Organisation and Support Blogs (https://www.tfmrmamas.com/post/uk-ireland-charities-organisations-support-for-tfmr-parents). You can also order your bespoke memory box through
@lovethroughlossmemoryboxes or their website
There are many different types of jewellery that can help you keep your child’s memory, some of them include: Birthstones on a necklace or ring, foot or handprints on a necklace, dog tag or ring. Custom jewellery with your baby’s name, date of birth on them. Ring with heartbeat from last scan. Necklace holding tiny forget me not seeds. Ring or Necklace holding some of your Baby Ashes.
Handmade Personalised Embroidered Prints
Go to @janekent_studio or here See the “In memory range” inspired by Babyloss Awareness Week for the Wave of Light where Jane kindly donates 20% of every purchase to charity that helps people through grief.
Macramé Angel Wings
Boho style angel wings which are so pretty. If you google this you will see there is a huge range of Macramé Angel Wings available, from Wall Décor to handmade crochet ones to DIY ones. Also lovely jewellery and clothes with Macramé Angels wings on them.
Wooden or Leather Box Engrave with Baby’s name to keep everything in
Some people like to have a little memory box to keep everything together. This could include things like your hospital band, the pamphlet from your baby’s service, dried flowers that you received after losing them, photos or hand and footprints, scan pictures, cards or messages you received from friends and family.
Framing their ultrasound picture
Again this is very personal thing and I know from speaking with other TFMR Mamas that there is varying feelings around ultrasound pictures and that is ok! If it felt right for you, you could frame your favourite ultrasound picture. There are also companies who can do create pieces for you with your ultrasound. Check out @quaintbaby_ultrasoundart on Instagram or here.
Weighted Bear or A Teddy Bear made from their clothes
There are many amazing people and companies out there that make Teddy Bears for baby loss parents, if you have baby grows or blankets from your baby you maybe able to get them made into a little Teddy in memory of your baby. Another option is having a personalised Bear made for you which is the same weight/length as your baby if you have this information.
Teddy bear to hold their ashes or that plays their heartbeat
There are little bears available that have a pouch which you can pop your baby’s ashes into so you can give them a cuddle. Also some TFMR mamas have got bears made that plays their baby’s heartbeat.
Willow Tree Ornaments